Thoughts in a moment: mindful discussion book club

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I have decided to create a thoughtful book club! The reason is two-fold: I want to read more and engage in constructive conversation! There are no hard and fast rules to this book club and you don’t have to read every single book to participate! If there are a select few books you’d like to jump in on the discussion for, by all means! We are meeting here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/399791290395171/

I made this selection of books because I believe these are all issues that are affecting our present day and also issues that relate to the intentions of this blog — some are little known. I believe we will generate positive dialogue and perhaps learn something about the world, ourselves, and each other! Happy reading!

April

For April, I decided to choose two books. The first, The Little Book of Hygge – The Danish Way to Live Well is a quick read about this Danish way of life that you may already be partaking in without even knowing it!

The second book, In Defense of Food, discusses the industrialization of food as it relates to the decline of the environment. Pollan looks at food from a health perspective and discusses the multi-billion dollar food industry with facts.

May

“When thirty-eight-year-old New Yorker writer Ariel Levy left for a reporting trip to Mongolia in 2012, she was pregnant, married, financially secure, and successful on her own terms. A month later, none of that was true.

Levy picks you up and hurls you through the story of how she built an unconventional life and then watched it fall apart with astonishing speed. Like much of her generation, she was raised to resist traditional rules—about work, about love, and about womanhood.”

June

TBD

July

“Trayvon Martin’s parents take readers beyond the news cycle with an account only they could give: the intimate story of a tragically foreshortened life and the rise of a movement.”

August

“It started with a harmless quest for perfect wash-and-go hair. Every girl wants it, and Siobhan O’Connor and Alexandra Spunt finally found it in a fancy salon treatment. They were thrilled—until they discovered that the magic ingredient was formaldehyde.”

September

“Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store. Your preschooler refuses to get dressed. Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field. Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging? No―it’s just their developing brain calling the shots!”

October

“Researcher and thought leader Dr. Brené Brown offers a powerful new vision that encourages us to dare greatly: to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly, and to courageously engage in our lives.”

November

“#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The compelling, inspiring, and comically sublime story of one man’s coming-of-age, set during the twilight of apartheid and the tumultuous days of freedom that followed”

December

“From the star of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills comes an emotional and eye opening behind-the-scenes look at her descent into uncovering the mystery of chronic Lyme disease.”

January

“Even as seas rise against the shores, another great tide is beginning to rise – a tide of outrage against the pillage of the planet, a tide of commitment to justice and human rights, a swelling affirmation of moral responsibility to the future and to Earth’s fullness of life.”

February

“Nightline anchor Dan Harris embarks on an unexpected, hilarious, and deeply skeptical odyssey through the strange worlds of spirituality and self-help, and discovers a way to get happier that is truly achievable.”

 

Just one of those days

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Do you ever have those days where absolutely everything gets to you? No matter how hard you try to get out of a funk or an annoyed feeling, you just can’t shake it? For me, today was that day. When I get in these moods, I know I NEED to just get out of the house and take my mind off of things for a little while. I have whole-heartedly enjoyed being on maternity leave for these 11 months and I will obviously sad to leave my baby to go to work but, there are definitely some days where I would do anything to get out of the house alone! Today I was not feeling like I was being my best mom at all. Usually on those days, I know what I need to do to feel  a bit better.

So, because today was one of those days I decided to try to ignore all the things that were driving me crazy at home and get out of the house.


Here are some things I try do when the mom life gets the better of me:

  1. Go for a walk – this is something I definitely need to do more often (hard when it’s -1000 degrees outside)
  2. Make a coffee, or get a coffee and get out of the house – either way have a coffee (or tea, tea is probably better)
  3. Go to a favourite place like the farmers market, a coffee shop, a park, etc.
  4. Take a minute – things can wait (constantly have to remind myself of this one)
  5. Watch a favourite show – I am currently watching Jane the Virgin on Netflix – pretty good!
  6. Visit with a friend
  7. Do my Beautycounter spa routine! Nourishing Cleanser, Charcoal Face Mask, Balancing oil. Instant refresh! 

Self care can take on many forms! Here are some things some other moms said they do to relax and recharge:

Go for a walk and listen to music

Blare music while running

Take the dog to the beach

Have a bath

Shower & face mask

Browse Whole Foods

Go for a drive

Go to the gym

Do something creative with the kids like a craft or something fun


What do you do to relax and recharge? tell us below in the comments! 

 

 

Recipe: probiotic smoothie

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I am always looking for quick and simple ways to add probiotics to my diet. Gut health is extremely important but people don’t always think about it. Also, recently, I have been trying to incorporate more dates into my life as they are supposed to help with duration and pain in labour by thinning the cervix and potentially strengthening the uterus. You’re supposed to eat around six per day in the last weeks of pregnancy so, I have found the easiest way to get them in is adding them to blended beverages.

I thought I would share this great smoothie recipe that I found recently. It incorporates kefir which is a great source of probiotics as well as helps me to get my allotted dates in.

Source: www.veggiesutra.com

Makes 2 glasses

Ingredients:
1 cup kefir (if store-bought, look for unsweetened plain kefir with live cultures)
1 cup water or unsweetened almond milk
Half an orange, peeled and cut in to sections
4-5 dates, pitted
1 avocado, peeled, seeded and sliced
1 Tbsp raw cacao powder

Method:
Throw all the ingredients in to the blender and blend till smooth.  If the consistency is too thick for you, add half a cup of water or almond milk and blend.

How do you get your probiotics in? 

How to deal with anxiety one day at a time

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Living with anxiety is hard and people who don’t experience chronic anxiety have a hard time understanding what you are actually going through. Anxiety is something that I have dealt with on and off for years. Some days it is better than others. And while I’ve never been formally diagnosed, it is definitely something that I have sought help for in the past.

The way people experience anxiety can be very different. My anxiety comes in the form of worrying about little things. It comes in the form of obsession about things that might cause harm to my body such as germs or chemicals or diseases and what not. It sometimes expresses itself in anger towards people who don’t deserve it, but if I am worrying anxiously about something, and then discussing something completely un related with someone it can cause me to take my anxiety frustrations out on them.

With my various anxieties, I sometimes have to do things a few times to make sure in my own head that the are actually done, or that my health will not be harmed, even by something as simple as using a public washroom (this is where the OCD component comes in). Most of my anxieties are completely irrational and I have taught myself to acknowledge my feelings but to move past them through the power of my mind and exercises in mindfulness.These exercises where given to me by a therapist and have helped me combat my daily anxieties.

So what is anxiety? People, namely people who don’t understand anxiety, have told me that worry is a wasted emotion. But anxiety is so much more than just a simple worry. It is a general sense of uneasiness in everyday life. According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, “We all feel nervous or worried at times. This anxiety can be a helpful feeling when it motivates us or warns us of danger. An anxiety disorder, on the other hand, causes unexpected or unhelpful anxiety that seriously impacts our lives, including how we think, feel, and act.”

Learn more about anxiety disorders. Also, according to the Canadian Mental Health Association, “Anxiety disorders affect 5% of the household population, causing mild to severe impairment.”

One of my favourite philosophers explains anxiety in such an eloquent way and it is a notion that has stayed with me. According to Kierkegaard in The Concept of Anxiety, 

Anxiety is a qualification of dreaming spirit, and as such it has its place in psychology. Awake, the difference between myself and my other is posited; sleeping, it is suspended; dreaming, it is an intimated nothing. The actuality of the spirit constantly shows itself as a form that tempts its possibility but disappears as soon as it seeks to grasp for it, and it is a nothing that can only bring anxiety. More it cannot do as long as it merely shows itself. [Anxiety] is altogether different from fear and similar concepts that refer to something definite, whereas anxiety is freedom’s actuality as the possibility of possibility.

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Anxiety may be compared with dizziness. He whose eye happens to look down the yawning abyss becomes dizzy. But what is the reason for this? It is just as much in his own eye as in the abyss, for suppose he had not looked down. Hence, anxiety is the dizziness of freedom, which emerges when the spirit wants to posit the synthesis and freedom looks down into its own possibility, laying hold of finiteness to support itself. Freedom succumbs to dizziness. Further than this, psychology cannot and will not go. In that very moment everything is changed, and freedom, when it again rises, sees that it is guilty. Between these two moments lies the leap, which no science has explained and which no science can explain. He who becomes guilty in anxiety becomes as ambiguously guilty as it is possible to become.

What I understand from Kierkegaards notions of anxiety is that many things can bring on anxiety and when there are seemingly so many possibilities, it brings on the dizziness of anxiety. We are faced with constant decisions, especially in this busy modern world that it can prove overwhelming for some.  I am however, not as depressing as Kierkegaard however, the good news is there are lots of ways to combat anxiety. Some ways that I try to deal with my anxiety on a daily basis:

1. Constant positive thoughts
I know that as soon as I get in a negative tail-spin it’s only down, down, down from there we go. My negative thoughts only breed negative thoughts. Many things can set off the rampage of negativity such as a fight with my partner, something stressful happening at work, traffic, or just having a plain old bad day. But, when those things do happen, I want to have a way to combat them and not to get into such a downer mode or an anxiety ridden state that can be hard to get out of.
I’m not saying that my thoughts are all roses and butterflies but I definitely know I can get caught up in negative emotions, because life goes on and it is much better when I am looking to the bright side of things.
2. Aromatherapy
For me, I know that light and smell really affect my mood. Life is stressful no matter who you are, and I really try to take a few minutes each day to chill. For me, this may mean having a cup of tea with a candle lit and watching a favourite TV show or using essential oils to boost my mood. I find, if I take some time to indulge in these things it has a drastic impact on my mood. I am less likely to let some anxieties bother me and even after a stressful day it can really help to calm myself and help me not to be so snappy.
3. Consciously drinking more water
I’ve noticed my mood and how I handle stress drastically improves when I am hydrated. This is something that is quite simple but I know I often don’t get enough water each day. When I drink more water I’ve noticed that I get less headaches and I am a generally more happy person. Seems like a no-brainer, right?
4. Going for a walk
This is something that I have used more in the past to help with anxiety. I do find that getting outside still really helps to clear my thoughts and to calm me down. Something about fresh air and time to clear your head that is so important for well being.
5. Talk about it
I find when I talk about the feelings I am having with people who understand it truly helps to combat my irrational anxieties. This could be a good friend (I use this one a lot, sorry guys!) or it could be a therapist or counsellor. It is really important to have a support system and to not internalize your feelings. Some days all it takes is for a good friend to say “calm down, you are letting your thoughts get the better of you, don’t worry!” I think if I didn’t have some sort of support system, I would be in a really dark place.
6. Exercise
For me this is going to a group fitness class, at least once a week. But doing something active can really help to get the good feelings flowing. Even yoga is a great exercise and one that I need to try to do more often as it combines physical well being with mental well being.
7. Take a break
I find I need to get out of the city every once in a while. Doing a weekend day trip to the mountains or visiting a friend in another city can really help me to re-charge and give me a new perspective.
8. Healthy eating
If I make sure that my diet is in check I always notice that I am in a much better head space. Not only eating healthy food but making sure to eat something at breakfast, lunch and dinner and to stop for snacks in between. I find planning all of this difficult some days but when I do, I feel much better.
I think that mental health is a societal issue and it is important to talk about how we are feeling. If you have serious feelings of anxiety it is a great idea to seek a mental health professional to give you the tools to deal with it. I am always looking for more great ideas to combat my anxious feelings day to day. Please share your strategies with me! I love sharing common stories and I think it is so important to speak and to listen.